"A Chance To Be A Man" Part 1

 

It's 2012.  You have all types of situations in households now.   Couples where both people work, just the man works, and also situations where just the woman works.  It's all about finding the combination that "works" for your particular situation.

A lot of women have such big hearts, and such a strong desire to find love in a relationship, that they settle for less than what they desire in a man. It is in my opinion, that in that settling for less than what they desire in a man,  they short circuit the guy in the relationship's "chance to be a man".

Here's an example:  A woman and a guy meet.  They date for a while, and things are going good.  They decide to move in together.  She has her own place, but the guy still lives at his parent's place.  So the guy moves in with the woman who has her own place.  The guy goes from his mama's house, to her house.  Now since this was already her place, of course she already manages the bills.  And since she was taking care of the bills before he moved in, she isn't necessarily depending on him to pay the bills.

Now not all, but most of the women that I talk to, want to one day get married.  But when you live together, and are already having sex before you get married, it lessens the urgency and desire for a man to want to get married.

A lot of people in their early twenties are looking to find a good job, and still trying to figure out what they "really" want to do.  Many women are sensitive to this, and willing to wait for a man to figure out what he really wants to do.   So all of a sudden, the relationship becomes lopsided, and turns into expensive companionship.

 For the man it's his first serious relationship.  He went from is mama's house, to her house.  Since, she had the responsibility of the house, she has to still work while she figures out what she "really" wants to do.  And her situation provides the opportunity and more time for him to figure out what he "really" wants to do.

In her settling and desperation, a situation was created in the relationship that lowered the possibility in his "chance to be a man".