"Angry Black Man"

Anger.  It's a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility towards a person or thing.  Anger is an emotion that could be tagged as universal, because it's felt and understood from every human being and even animals.

I was reading an article about the term of former president Barak Obama.  It talked about how many felt that his effectiveness was limited because he had to be perceived as perfect and couldn't show too much emotion, in fear of being deemed "the angry black man".

This stereotype is one of the many painful realities of living as a black man in America.  An emotion that is universally understood and what's a normal part of human behavior for others, somehow gets turned into a sign of aggression and sparks fear when a black man shows this emotion.

As black men, we are dealing with the pressures of being providers and protectors of our homes.  Many are fathers of children of blended families. We face discrimination, limited opportunities, and often are building our legacies from "scratch".  I think that one of the most challenging things that black men face is not having enough mentors or examples to follow.  Need an example?  Think about Barak Obama being the President of the United States and not having another black man that had done that before or served in that office.

It's almost like having to socially walk on egg shells.  Because the unfortunate reality is, too many times than not, when a black man gets too angry, he gets arrested, shot, or even killed.  When a black man shows too much emotion he is discriminated against, or deemed as a threat or a source of fear.

Nobody wants the burden of proving a stereotype wrong.  Black men want to be viewed and evaluated for the individuals they are, not the generalizations of society and what's seemed to become social norms.

As black men, we want to have the ability to express our emotions, whether it be joy, pain, or anger without the thought in the back of our heads that their will be a negative consequence.  Is it too much to ask for to publicly show a natural human emotion without being cast into a stereotype?

It is my desire that in our culture a black man can be, an angry black man but not "the angry black man".

Mind Rehab

Mind Rehab, it's the process of removing negative, self defeating thoughts, actions, and emotions, and replacing them with thoughts, actions, and emotions that are positive and "true".

When you think about it, it's not really about the mind at all.  The soul; our thoughts, choices, and feelings is what really control our minds.  And that's what it's really all about; the process of making better thoughts, decisions, and having better emotions.

During my 12 years in the real estate business, I learned the process of rehabbing houses.  What I learned is that when rehabbing a house, you have to first remove the things that are old, out dated, and don't work any more.  That's called the demolition process.  We all have things that we need to get rid of in our lives.  Old thoughts, old habits, and old ways that simply don't work any more.

From there you are down to what is called the foundation and framework of the house.  This is the "real you", not the fake facade that you put up to others. Only when you are down to the bare bones can you start the rebuilding process, or else, you are just building over old junk.

The last phase of the rehab is the exiting part, the new stuff!  The improvements, upgrades, and additions are what maximizes a homes potential.  Similar to houses, with the right thoughts, the right actions, and the right feelings, you can be your best you and maximize your potential!